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Lets keep it real we are now living in a day & age where it seems to praised even glorified to be "the side piece" No one seems to want the commitment of being "the main" The side piece epidemic yes i am calling this an epidemic lol is spreading like wild fire its more present in the music we listen to, in the shows we watch and even in our everyday interaction when we sipping tea (not the real herbal tea but that juicy gossip that we have in our group messages and just basic interaction with our closest people) "It's less work and more fun" being the side piece or is it? Is being a side piece where its at or are relationships still being valued, well today we gone sip some of that side piece or nah tea and who better to start with then myself.. so yall ready? HERE.....WE...GOO...... (mommy if you reading this i love you girl lol)
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❤ So for me i have knowingly never been a side piece but i can say i had a situation with an ex where i could of had a "side piece" let me explain. So my ex was one of them nonchalant kind of dudes. He never went overboard he just gave you what he gave and that was it. He knew how to save, he had style, ambition yeah all that stuff your grandma and mama want lol but FUN was not one word i would describe him as. He worked a lot and wasn't really tapped into me emotionally. I never went looking for anyone cause i believe in making stuff work so i stayed and then one day a man who we will call for the sake of this blog Mr.M (i will not disclose names unless given permission cause I'm broke lol and i don't need someone trying to sue me for defamation lol so no names is the game lol) so Mr. M was grown and just had an aura that was mesmerizing and captive. When he spoke he looked into your eyes and immediately you felt that connection even if their wasn't one, he was that guy. He started coming in my job daily asking for help and me specifically me to help him. Without knowing just basic conversation he knew i was in a relationship and i knew he wasn't in one, he could tell without saying it that i was missing something. We exchanged numbers on the strength of me being an excellent employee lol when deep down i was lonely. He talked to me and understood my emotions something my ex wasn't doing and then Mr. M revealed he was married. OH LORRRRRRD I'm going to hell is what i thought lol here i am in a relationship getting emotionally attached to a married man (unknowingly) and hunnnie it was not with it. Yes he got a divorce (not because of me) but in this case without question the "side piece" role was up and active because of emotions. I am older now so i know how to handle situations like this but i honestly feel in women "side pieces" are more present because of what we lack at home.
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❤ Even though i believe that a relationship is consisted of two individuals and having a side piece isn't necessary, yall know i had to reach out to my support system my friends and their friends and hunnnie lol when i tell yall some of their responses shocked me lol i mean shocked me to my core to the point where i needed to change this blog title to "how to be a successful side piece" lol. I simple asked them:
1. Would you have a side piece if you were in a relationship
2. Would you date anyone that told you they had a significant other?
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❤ Erica's Response❤
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❤ My Anonymous Hunnie's Response ❤
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❤Bestie Boo's Response❤
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❤My Wifey Jazz's Response❤
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❤My Boo Britt's Response❤
❤ All in all for me being a side piece is not the move. I value my current relationship and i value relationships in general so for me i couldn't. I appreciate everyone who submitted their stories and gave their opinions. Please comment below and keep the conversation going "side piece or nah"
Please keep in mind this is a positive platform and only positive vibes are welcome, if any negative comments are posted they will be deleted and you will be blocked
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